People Pleasing Tendencies

People Pleasing Tendencies

Where in your life do you have a hard time saying no? 

Or saying yes, but without feeling guilty. 

Or saying yes, but without resentment or anger that you did say yes because you really wanted to say no. 

How about speaking up? Where do you have a hard time speaking up or telling the truth? 

Do you find yourself telling white lies all the time?

Excuses? Last minute excuses? 

Do you have a hard time setting a boundary, a healthy boundary, that people actually respect? 

Go figure, right? 

Do you have a hard time detaching from others’ disappointment when you say No to them because they want you to say yes?  Do you stress about them being disappointed with you?

I can’t go over all of the People-Pleasing indicators in this video, but if you want the complete list that I use with my coaching clients, drop me a comment below saying “ALL 9” and I’ll send it to you.

I’m Donna, a Wellness Coach… 

I broke free from living a life of accommodating everyone else’s needs… to living a life on my own terms, every single day. It then became my mission to help as many women as possible to find self love, live life on their own terms and still be loving and giving to others.

Here are some other tendencies people-pleasers often exhibit:

Difficulty Saying No: People-pleasers often find it challenging to say no to requests or demands from others, even when doing so would be in their best interest. They may prioritize avoiding conflict or disappointing others over honoring their own needs and boundaries.

Seeking Approval: People-pleasers tend to seek external validation and approval from others to validate their self-worth. They may go to great lengths to gain acceptance and praise, often at the expense of their own authenticity or well-being.

Avoiding Conflict: People-pleasers often go to great lengths to avoid confrontation or disagreement, preferring to keep the peace and maintain harmonious relationships. They may suppress their own feelings or opinions to avoid upsetting others, even when they have valid concerns or grievances.

Overextending Themselves: People-pleasers frequently overcommit themselves by taking on too many obligations or responsibilities in an effort to please others. They may prioritize meeting others’ needs or expectations over their own, leading to burnout and resentment.

Difficulty Setting Boundaries: People-pleasers often struggle to set and enforce healthy boundaries in their relationships. They may allow others to overstep their boundaries or take advantage of them, fearing that asserting themselves will lead to rejection or disapproval.

These tendencies can stem from a variety of factors, including a desire for acceptance, fear of rejection or criticism, low self-esteem, or a need to avoid conflict. While people-pleasing behaviors may initially seem altruistic, they can ultimately lead to feelings of resentment, dissatisfaction, and a loss of self-identity. Learning to prioritize self-care, assertiveness, and self-compassion can help people-pleasers cultivate healthier and more fulfilling relationships with themselves and others.

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